Changing friendships

My original name for the post was "Things change when you have kids" but I changed this as I did not feel it was bringing the true meaning of the blog across. This change I was talking of is a positive one more than a negative one. Our children (pets and kids) are our blessings and I would never ever want to experience my days without them. 

Very often, I think back of what I imagined life to be like. The normal path of meeting the man you love, getting engaged, getting married, going on honeymoon, buying a house, expanding the family with dogs and having children. These are normal life events most people long for and eagerly search for all their lives. And when it happens to you, it is the most amazing thing in the world. Love and family truly is amazing.

When realizing all those dreams and doing this together with your soulmate, one automatically changes, one grows together, adapts to each other and forms dreams together. And it is at this cross road of changing lives and changing goals and targets as one has fulfilled the "normal steps" in life, that one often "outgrows" existing  friendships. It is not because one wants to, but priorities in life change. I no longer long to go out clubbing, meeting new people and partying, I long to spend a little quiet time with my family, I long to relax and kick off my shoes and I long to just sit back and dream more dreams of what is to come. I try to give my all to my family and this includes ensuring that we are able to provide our son a stable, sound and safe environment with a routine that he needs to develop and grow. If I think about it, our whole lives have changed to revolve around providing our child with the best possible and I think this is awesome.

Sadly, there will be people that do not understand why one would rather stay home with a sick child or not want to break their routine and uproot their lives. There are people, that are still searching for those "normal things" in life and just have different priorities and that is absolutely ok. Maybe, somewhere along our the way, our two different roads will meet again. But when one travels on different roads, it is nice to know that on this same road you will find people that do understand and support you, and you will meet new people that share the same new important role of parenthood as you do. Their lives too have a new meaning!

And until you are a parent, you will never understand. But once you have reached this amazing new path in life, there is just absolutely nothing better and more precious and amazing then creating of life and nurturing it in such a loving and caring way. Love and Family are what life is all about. Mine in any case :)




Blog Photo Attribution: By Jo Christian Coterhals, jcoterhals
Blog Photo 1 Attribution: By Dru Bloomfield - At Home in Scottsdale